How To Be Positive When You Feel Negative
Sometimes, we find ourselves in situations that we can’t control, we tell people we’re stuck and having trouble finding purpose.
If you were to ask me about my purpose or what I wanted to do a few months ago, I’d just blankly stare at you until you asked another question…
I wasn’t sure what I was supposed to be doing with my life, I was vulnerable and angry most of the time. I forgot what it was like to be positive.
It takes strength to stop drowning in the negative swamp you’ve created for yourself. Trust me, I was there for quite a bit and constantly found myself struggling to keep my head above the water.
Here is how I regained confidence and strength
1. Morning Mediation and Affirmation
Every morning when I wake up, the first thing I do is say 10 things i’m grateful for (Example: Family, friends, roof over my head etc)
I get out of bed and I quickly stretch, I usually find an affirmation for the day. I love Wayne Dyer and found comfort in many of his books, especially his affirmations. One of my favourite books by Wayne Dyer is Living the Wisdom of the Tao: The Complete Tao Te Ching and Affirmationsthe book is fantastic.
2. One Creative Thing A Day
Once a day, I try to do one creative thing no matter how busy I am. I always try to draw, write or talk to people who want to create something together. I love taking on projects or using my imagination to help inspire me to stay positive. Since I decided to do “one creative thing a day” I find that i’ve been inspired to do so much more with my life and each day I reflect and find myself content and happy with where I am. Currently, I’m drawing a lot more, I bought a Moleskine Art Plus Sketchbook, Large, Plain, Black, Hard Cover (5 x 8.25) (Classic Notebooks) and since then I’ve been more inspired to draw my goals or draw my pain. It’s been a great way to turn negative situations into art.
3. Write Negative and Stressful Thoughts On Paper, Burn The Paper, Bury The Ashes
Someone suggested me to this this a while back, the first time I thought it was quite silly. However, I kept doing this whenever life got tough and found it quite peaceful and a great stress release. I highly suggest trying this whenever life gets you down.
4. Talk To Somebody
I’m not shy at all, if I have a problem, I need to talk about it and i’ll be quite open with just about anything going on in my life. It’s not fair to myself or the people around me when I hold everything in. However, at the lowest part of my life, I didn’t want to annoy anyone with my problems. I ended up calling a crisis line when I was feeling down and this was the most helpful thing I’ve ever done. I’m fine now, but I was really contemplating getting a therapist for a very long time. Luckily, I feel comfortable talking to the people around me again and realize that they aren’t annoyed, they just want to listen and help me through whatever is going on.
5. Mediate Before Bed
No matter how my day went, I reflect on the day and say the things i’m grateful for. I try my hardest to stay positive and not go to bed upset or stressed out. I always read an affirmation before I go to bed and I find that it really helps me. I wake up positive and no matter what happens in between the time I get up and the time I go to bed, I make sure I have a positive beginning and a positive ending to each and every day.
If these tips don’t work for you, I really suggest reading The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle. This book changed my life and allowed me to look at life differently.