How I Deal With My Social Anxiety
No matter what you do in life, good or bad, people will always have their own opinions, hell some might not even care enough to have an opinion. I know for years, I cared way too much about others opinions and especially what they thought of me. A few months ago, my anxiety of how I presented myself and what others thought of me, created so much social anxiety and I became very paranoid. I was having anxiety attacks every single day, I didn’t think very highly of myself but tried my hardest to keep it cool.
My anxiety came to a point where I felt that I was trapped and when I looked around a crowded room, I would imagine what other people were thinking about me. I felt that everything I did or everything I said was being judged.
I realized one thing when I was dealing with this paranoid anxiety – Nobody cares, so why should you? People are more likely to think about themselves more than they think of you.
People honestly don’t care, most of the time people are dealing with their own anxiety or fears. Even if someone was judging you, everyone is entitled to their own opinions and that’s a fact. We can’t judge others when it comes to forming any type of opinion whether it’s in your favor or not.
When I realized that the only opinion that should matter to me was my own, it was clear to me, that all of this anxiety was self-created and was built on the foundations of how I felt about myself. I was able to rebuild from there.
Suddenly, I cared less what people thought of me and if anyone has or had a negative opinion on how I choose to live my life, that’s okay because they aren’t me and how I feel about myself is the most important. We aren’t perfect and nobody is ever the same, we’re all different and unique.
I’m a little weird and I’m quite aware of that fact. I’m more likely to embrace it now since i’m comfortable and I want to be truly authentic because i’m aware of who I am and if people don’t accept me for who I am, that’s alright because I accept who I am and I understand i’m not everybody’s cup of tea.
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes I have days where I feel so pathetic and crappy about myself but I remind myself that whatever I do is my choice and everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I can respect that.
You need to stay true to yourself and accept that not everybody will like you. You shouldn’t have to feel accepted by others to validate your own self-worth.
Accept yourself and if anyone shares their opinion with you, you can take it or leave it. All you can do is grow and validate yourself because it’s your life and you shouldn’t base your life around other people.
The only thing you should care about is taking care of yourself. You are all you have and it’s up to you to change how you feel.