The Week I Went Without Social Media : What I’ve Learned

I decided to delete social media for a week. I de-activated my facebook, deleted my snapchat and deleted whatever apps “triggered” my anxiety.

It was great but I felt very disconnected from the world- Crazy right?
Finally, I felt silence for once. I wasn’t really worried about anybody else and I just focused on myself. I had a few friends message me because they were worried that I was in-active. It felt nice to actually know people were missing what I was posting. However, it was the stress from trying to create content getting to me.

I figured, if I want my life to come together, I need to focus. Deleting social media helped me in so many ways. I felt that I wanted to listen to my friends speak instead of what everybody else was doing.

That week, I dealt with every life problem I had, head on.I was more productive not being distracted from notifications and facebook…

Prior to this decision, I noticed a lot of the time, I’d wake up before my alarm (woo-hoo) but instead of getting out of bed and starting my day, I would lay in bed for an hour watching videos on Facebook. This is obviously not productive at all.

The second I was able to disconnect, I was able to focus. The last week, I’ve spent a good amount of time alone with my thoughts and really banged out some ideas of where I need to go next.

I like to think I have it all figured out but I don’t. Now that I know my weaknesses, I can address them head on. Instead of avoiding my problems by going on facebook and scrolling for hours, I’ll have to avoid social media until it’s resolved.

The question I had previously –  Does social media cause stress/anxiety?
I know I found myself a little lonely at times without it. But when you have nothing going on in life besides paying bills and trying to find a job, Facebook is like a personal attack on our egos.

I eventually connected again, however, I decided to delete facebook off my phone and monitor my phone use.

Each day we are given 24 hours to do something. I hate thinking about how much i’m missing out because i’m too busy looking down at my phone.

Load More
Something is wrong. Response takes too long or there is JS error. Press Ctrl+Shift+J or Cmd+Shift+J on a Mac.

5 Things I’ve Learnt This Summer

Finding a work/life balance is hard, especially when you work 7 days a week. Trust me, I’m not complaining. I’ve put off hard work and pushing forward for such a long time. I’m pretty motivated to continue what I’ve been doing, however, writing isn’t my main priority right now.

However, once I’ve maintained my sanity and also successful time management skills, I’ll be back on track.

I’m setting new goals and setting different priorities. This summer has been filled with incredible lessons, some good lessons, some not so good. But I’m grateful for all of the fun and great things I’ve experienced. I’ve gotten through a lot of things and worked a lot on my insecurities. I’ve become quite independent to be completely honest and I’m feeling great.

What I’ve learnt this summer:

  1. Everything Is Uncertain, Expect The Unexpected 
    I lost my job about a month ago, right before I signed the lease to my fantastic condo. You never know what will be next, but you need to be open to the idea that anything can happen. You can’t plan every aspect of your life. You need to believe that being uncertain about things is quite beautiful.
  2. Don’t Live Your Life For Other People
    I don’t live my life planning to please other people nor do I expect others to do the same.  Truth is, it’s not worth changing for somebody else nor is it worth having someone change to please you.
  3. Work Hard, Play Hard 
    I’ve constantly pushed back passion projects to help, support or encourage others to do the same. However, without you pushing yourself, you can’t push others to do the same for themselves. You need to work hard on your goals and be grateful for the times you go out and “play”.
  4. Let people go who don’t serve you purpose 
    It’s one thing to have expectations for other people but when you expect things you constantly face disappointment. Something many people struggle with is letting go of toxic people, it’s hard, especially when you get so intoxicated by the people who are so potent. The best thing you can do for yourself is; be grateful for that experience and move on.
  5. Have Fun 
    No matter what, you have a choice. Do you want to sit there and be miserable or do you want to see the positive side in any situation and take full advantage of it?  Work is boring, but sometimes you need to make the most of it. Sometimes you don’t have a choice but to stay in the same place but there are times where you need to push around through it and figure out how to get by. It’s pretty easy even though it feels difficult at times

 

How I’m Finding Inspiration Again

Lately, I’ve been hard on myself, really really hard on myself – To be honest.

I wasn’t accepted into the Bizstart program with Y.E.S.
I was really lost for words as I thought getting laid off and getting a new condo was an obvious sign that things were going to go “my way”.

I was devastated! I had to find a job and I had to put aside my goals and aspirations to focus on myself and my career.

Great, I thought to myself as I rolled my eyes.

From moving complications to put aside my goals, life wasn’t going my way – Doe it ever though?

Doubt and self-worth got to me… However, I noticed I was falling into the same routine and depression I always get into before Fall starts – Seasonal depression hits hard, but never this early, especially in the Summer.

Life wasn’t going my way, and I couldn’t really believe it.

However, life goes on as it does. I knew that whatever was happening in that moment, was happening for a reason. It was phasing out the things that I don’t need in my life anymore. I have so many blessings around me each day that I was too blind to see.

The last two or so weeks, I finally took the time to re-visit my resume and I actually decided to re-do my resume – Luckily, it had a good turn out.
I started to hand out my resume and sent it to different companies last week and by the weekend I had a few interviews lined up for this week.

On Monday, I started the week with a different perspective. I had two job interviews and I was ready to try again.

By the time it was time to head to bed, I had two job offers and was invited to have a few job interviews with a few companies.

I ended up accepting a job and I’m confident that I’m on the path I need to be on because I am so blessed and content with what I have now. I have goals and aspirations and I don’t really need to depend on anyone.

For the first time in my life, I am confident and independent. As each day shows me different signs on how I’m succeeding in my own little way.

Slowly but surely, I’m slowly making time for things that matter in my life. I look back on my Summer and realize that this has been one of the greatest Summers of my life so far.

I’ve been able to cross off everything I’ve wanted to do on my short Summer Bucket list and continuously staying optimistic to what is going come.

On Tuesday, my mother took me to see Coldplay perform at the Rogers Centre… After being depressed for two weeks and being stressed out of my mind I was finally realizing that I can easily get out of that mind frame if I simply just realized what I had instead of what I didn’t.

Watching a band whom I’ve always listened to in time of struggle, under the CN tower, I realized how each day is a miracle and no matter how big the obstacle is, you can always find a way around it.

As I’m slowly finding inspiration to write again, I will tell all of you about the concert and my summer shortly.

But for now, I’m out of my depression and realizing my self-worth, I want to focus on me and not pressure myself into anything I can’t handle.

Until next time,

Christina.

Adventuring Toronto : Dupont Street

Recently, I’ve been spending a lot of time on Dupont Street in Toronto. I’m getting to know the area quite well.

Recently, I moved into the new Fuse 2 building located near Lansdowne.

I’ve come to the conclusion that the junction is one of the noisiest neighborhood in Toronto since it’s so close to the train tracks.

I’m completely over the moon with my current location, it’s beautiful and I feel so inspired being here.

Since the last two weeks I’ve found myself without the internet, I’ve actually adventured the neighborhood a little and found a cute little coffee shop near my apartment.

I’ve been heading to Hale Coffee every morning this week since I didn’t have any coffee or wifi at home.
This little treasure is found off of Dupont, in a studio loft-like space, with long hallways filled with other unique businesses.

I’ve also checked out other restaurants in the area such as Hello Darling and Love Chix.

Also on the strip, you can find tons of ma & pa shops. It’s such a lovely neighborhood. Also, I found a little trail that goes straight to Dundas West Station – You can try and beat the go-train to the station by bike on that trail. 

This area is incredibly convenient since Dufferin Galleria mall is just down the street at Dufferin & Dupont. It has a bunch of great shops like Rexall, Lcbo, Freshco, Pet Value and much more.

The walk score around this neighborhood is incredible. Also, the transit around here makes life a little easier as there are buses heading every direction.

I never find myself stranded for too long and even if it’s a long wait for a bus the subway station is only a 10-minute walk away.

I’ve been keeping my eye out for a place around this area and I find myself here, writing this, incredibly inspired and excited to see what else is in store for me this year.

A year ago, I was staying at a friends house for a month not too far from where I am now. I am just as excited to be in this area as I was being here the first time.

I’m really grateful and excited to feel this inspired to getting the ball rolling.

Why Leasing With A Realtor Will Get You Further Than Kijiji

We all can admit we’ve spent many hours looking for our next living location via kijiji, craigslist or any other lease listing site all over the internet.

People always think that when they work with a realtor, they’ll have to pay the realtor to lease the desired space. It can be annoying, however, it’s not true, you don’t pay anything to the realtor.

The past two years, i’ve been avoiding using services like kijiji & craiglist due to the amount of scams on their sites. However, last year my friend told me about a realtor she worked with and she found the perfect studio apartment for her and didn’t have to stress about the search everyone tries to avoid.

I know theres been times where I would spend a whole day looking at kijiji anxiously waiting for some sort of e-mail from the perfect landlord.
I would make a schedule for a full day of house viewings, spending hours on the TTC to each location.

The places were never incredibly nice and the paper work was never properly explained. It wouldn’t really bother me, however, it would’ve been nice to get professional advice for previous situations i’ve experienced.

I moved out from my parents house a few years ago, since then I’ve lived in 3-4 different locations. It was 2/4 were from a realtor.

A few years ago, I moved into a tiny little apartment with a girl and her dog. She found the location and we were able to sign the lease a few days later. It wasn’t until I started living with her I realized she was the devils daughter. I wanted out of the lease, however, I only had legal advice from my landlord who was quite annoyed and disturbed with this girls presence as well. She wasn’t a model tenant – unlike me.

It’s quite funny looking back, I was living with a guy last September and he was very disturbed. Luckily, we were able to get him off the lease and with the assistance from my realtor, we were able to quickly and easily transfer the lease over to another tenant.

Without the assistance from my realtor, I wouldn’t be living in the beautiful condo that I live in today.

The process might be overwhelming with the realtor at first, however, it’s worth it. They show you several available places and do all the dirty work for you [preparing the lease, assisting you with signing the lease and whatever problems might rise during the lease].

I was working with Aimee Fairweather from Bosley Brokerage here in Toronto and she is a miracle worker.
I highly recommend her or any of her colleagues. She does amazing work and always make sure her clients are happy and taken care of.

When my current roommate and I started looking for houses this time, the market was red hot. My realtor even mentioned that the leasing market right now is as hot as the buying market earlier this year. It’s remarkable how fast units were being leased – above asking price too.

We even went $50 over asking – which landed us the beautiful apartment.

Some find it crazy to think that everything happens for a reason. However, it’s totally true. If something is meant to happen it will.

Monday Morning, July, 31 2017

Good morning everybody, this weekend was filled with lots of working around different schedules and unpacking. Since I don’t work today, I can really start to focus on unpacking!

Let the fun begin!

We still don’t have internet connected to our new condo, so I’ll be putting off most of my writing again this week – until we get internet or free time…

I’m still unpacking, however, I still find myself fondly admiring our view still.

Over the weekend, I adventured the neighbor hood and found some fun new places.

SO far, Hale coffee is my favourite coffee joint near our condo. Located near Symington and Dupont.

I also tried brunch at Hello Darling and it was fantastic aswell!

                              Located Near Wallace and Lansdowne

Incredibly grateful for the opportunities that are right infront of me and what still lies ahead.

Last night, we had a taco night and sat on the balcony. It was quite lovely!

Tomorrow, I have my orientation and later I’ll find out if I officially joined the BizStart Program with Y.E.S.

Keeping my fingers crossed and my energy positive.

Have a great week everyone!
Xo,

Christina

Load More
Something is wrong. Response takes too long or there is JS error. Press Ctrl+Shift+J or Cmd+Shift+J on a Mac.

Why I’ve Been M.I.A

Hello everyone,

So, I usually post 3-4 times a week, however, this week has been unusually busy and insanely crazy.

It all started last Friday, I was unfortunately laid off my job.
However, I know everything happens for a reason and I was offered a weekend position – obviously, I took it since it’s better than nothing.

On Friday, I wrote a blog post about this apartment I really, really wanted. I was so stressed out the entire day about this apartment, I didn’t even realized what I should’ve been worried about was my job.

That night, I went home feeling the world was collapsing all around me. It wasn’t until I talked it out with a friend I realized my next move.
I knew I didn’t want to work retail and that I really wanted something that allowed me to focus on my business and most importantly my writing.

In that moment, I realized what I had to do, the only option for myself to be happy was to call Y.E.S. I remembered that they had a business course that starts in August, I knew if I wanted to do something that makes me happy it would be that, especially to focus on my business. It felt like fate was on my side.

On Saturday, I went to the gym with my friend, I received a call saying that the landlords decided that we were the perfect tenants for his condo unit. I was shocked, I couldn’t believe how fast everything could change.

Monday, I headed down to Y.E.S and spoke with the program coordinator about my business and applied to the program. I was invited back for orientation on Aug 1. After the meeting, my roommate Josh and I decided to get our bank draft ready. Nonetheless – I adventured around Toronto for the rest of the day

Tuesday-Wednesday, nothing too exciting happened besides packing up my bedroom. I was filled up with a lot of positive vibes this week. I was trying so hard to get everything in check however, I knew the next few weeks are going to be hard with work and this program. I wanted to relax as much as I could this week. We contacted our landlord to see if we could move in early since both of us are very busy in August.

Thursday, we got the go ahead to move in on Friday. We packed up quickly and headed to our hometown to grab a u-haul and whatever else we needed. My friends visited me for an hour before I headed to bed for the big day.

Friday, was moving day. I couldn’t believe that everything worked out the way it did – perfectly.
We moved into the condo yesterday without an issue, met our landlord and started to unpack.
I felt so unbelievably grateful last night and this condo is just the start of where all my goals can be completed. I am motivated and ready to face any challenge that comes up.

This week, I felt that I’ve learned so many valuable lessons. When you think your screwed over the sun will surprise you through the clouds. You aren’t screwed because whatever problem you face, you might find yourself surprised to find that it’s not much of a problem at all.

Now, I have a few that takes my breathe away and motivates me to do what I want to do and I feel confident that everything I set my mind to do, I will achieve it. Video to come later this week!

Load More
Something is wrong. Response takes too long or there is JS error. Press Ctrl+Shift+J or Cmd+Shift+J on a Mac.

 

Outfit Of The Day – July 24, 2017

Today, I wore this lovely lace shirt – unknown designer paired with these cute shorts from dynamite with high knee socks and my Prada purse.

I had a few meetings today, so I was quite busy! It was also raining a bit today, so I tied my calvin klein rain jacket around my waist because why the hell not?!

Today was also my friend day vlogging – i’ll be releasing weekly vlogs about my week starting as an entrepreneur.

Also, our offer on the condo we wanted went through. I’m so excited that my friend Josh and I will be living together as of Aug 1st (or sooner, hopefully sooner)

Here to the next week and hoping everything goes according to plan.

 

Have a great week everyone,

Christina xox

Load More
Something is wrong. Response takes too long or there is JS error. Press Ctrl+Shift+J or Cmd+Shift+J on a Mac.

Why It’s A Terrible Idea To Find An Apartment In September In Toronto

.

Are you moving to Toronto in August or September? This is what you should expect when moving in the summer time.

It doesn’t matter if you’re coming here to go to school or to start a new life, finding an apartment for August or September is literally the worst.
This is my second year in a row trying to find a new place to live.

This past spring, unfortunately my landlord passed away and his family decided to sell the property that they’ve owned for the last 20 years – which is the house I currently reside in.

I didn’t plan to move in September, since I knew how hard it was to 1) Find a place without 1000 other offers 2) Renting a u-haul is literally the worst around this time.
I was going to hold off until November, but the universe has different plans for me which is more apparent than ever.

I’ve been searching for a place to live for the last 2 months and having no luck. My friend and I have placed a few offers and none of them were accepted because people are offering way more than the usual asking price. My realtor even stated that the leasing market right now is similar to the buying market of late 2016- early 2017. Apartments/Condos are coming onto the market and quickly coming off and leased above asking.

Currently, we have an offer in review for a condo downtown. We’ve been advised to re-think our offer and potentially offer $200 more than the leasing price.

My stomach is in knots right now. This condo is everything I could ask for and i’ve been keeping my eye out on this specific condo building, it truly would be a dream come true to live here.

I can picture myself, enjoying some coffee in the morning, staring at the CN tower, thinking how incredibly grateful I am for everything I’ve went through.

However, if we don’t get this place, i’m confident we’ll find something else and in more of a cozier price range.

I might not know what I want to do for myself career wise, but I know I want to be and that is here, in Toronto. I moved here knowing that everything won’t be perfect but as long as i’m living in the city that i’m crazy inlove with, I know i’ll be happy wherever I move.

I couldn’t imagine living anywhere else besides Toronto, as a child I dreamt of living here and now that I am, I count my blessings everyday.

I’m currently living further north of downtown, Vaughn is closer to where I am than downtown is to be honest and since I live 5 minutes away from work I don’t often go downtown.

So, I’m really striving to find a place downtown, so I can feel that I can actually adventure downtown more often.

I just know the harder I work, the closer I will be to really feeling the embrace of this glorious city and i’m beaming with energy thinking about the next chapter of my life.

Load More
Something is wrong. Response takes too long or there is JS error. Press Ctrl+Shift+J or Cmd+Shift+J on a Mac.

How To Be Positive When You Feel Negative

Sometimes, we find ourselves in situations that we can’t control, we tell people we’re stuck and having trouble finding purpose.

If you were to ask me about my purpose or what I wanted to do a few months ago, I’d just blankly stare at you until you asked another question…
I wasn’t sure what I was supposed to be doing with my life, I was vulnerable and angry most of the time. I forgot what it was like to be positive.

It takes strength to stop drowning in the negative swamp you’ve created for yourself. Trust me, I was there for quite a bit and constantly found myself struggling to keep my head above the water.

Here is how I regained confidence and strength

1. Morning Mediation and Affirmation

Every morning when I wake up, the first thing I do is say 10 things i’m grateful for (Example: Family, friends, roof over my head etc)
I get out of bed and I quickly stretch, I usually find an affirmation for the day. I love Wayne Dyer and found comfort in many of his books, especially his affirmations. One of my favourite books by Wayne Dyer is Living the Wisdom of the Tao: The Complete Tao Te Ching and Affirmationsthe book is fantastic.

2. One Creative Thing A Day

Once a day, I try to do one creative thing no matter how busy I am. I always try to draw, write or talk to people who want to create something together. I love taking on projects or using my imagination to help inspire me to stay positive. Since I decided to do “one creative thing a day” I find that i’ve been inspired to do so much more with my life and each day I reflect and find myself content and happy with where I am. Currently, I’m drawing a lot more, I bought a Moleskine Art Plus Sketchbook, Large, Plain, Black, Hard Cover (5 x 8.25) (Classic Notebooks) and since then I’ve been more inspired to draw my goals or draw my pain. It’s been a great way to turn negative situations into art.

3. Write Negative and Stressful Thoughts On Paper, Burn The Paper, Bury The Ashes

Someone suggested me to this this a while back, the first time I thought it was quite silly. However, I kept doing this whenever life got tough and found it quite peaceful and a great stress release. I highly suggest trying this whenever life gets you down.

 

4. Talk To Somebody

I’m not shy at all, if I have a problem, I need to talk about it and i’ll be quite open with just about anything going on in my life. It’s not fair to myself or the people around me when I hold everything in. However, at the lowest part of my life, I didn’t want to annoy anyone with my problems. I ended up calling a crisis line when I was feeling down and this was the most helpful thing I’ve ever done. I’m fine now, but I was really contemplating getting a therapist for a very long time. Luckily, I feel comfortable talking to the people around me again and realize that they aren’t annoyed, they just want to listen and help me through whatever is going on.

5. Mediate Before Bed

No matter how my day went, I reflect on the day and say the things i’m grateful for. I try my hardest to stay positive and not go to bed upset or stressed out. I always read an affirmation before I go to bed and I find that it really helps me. I wake up positive and no matter what happens in between the time I get up and the time I go to bed, I make sure I have a positive beginning and a positive ending to each and every day.

If these tips don’t work for you, I really suggest reading The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle. This book changed my life and allowed me to look at life differently.

Load More
Something is wrong. Response takes too long or there is JS error. Press Ctrl+Shift+J or Cmd+Shift+J on a Mac.